I’ve been lying….

to everyone.

I’ve been lying to my husband about what I do on the computer when he gives me a couple of hours on a Sunday. He thinks I’m researching furniture. I’d say he was incredibly gullible, but I actually have a sneaking suspicion he knows I’m blogging. He uses my iPad and my blog is probably on the history. He’s not letting on, so basically, I’m lying to him.

I’ve been lying to some people on my anonymous twitter account. Some of them I was following (and followed back) on my “real me” twitter account and when I started my anonymous account I didn’t want to stop following on there as well. So quite a few of you are having two conversations with me. Probably about 20 of you. I feel bad, but the big advantage is that I get to read your tweets on one, where I may have missed on the other. However I do feel like I’m lying to you. On my “real me” twitter account I put up pics of me and the kids. I say stuff I’m comfortable with friends and hubby to read. On the anonymous account I get to say stuff I reeeeallly want to say. The stuff my husband would pull me up on and I quite like that.

I’m also lying to friends and family. “Did you do anything nice this weekend?” “Oh, you know a bit of gardening, playing with kids, sorting out school stuff”. It’s not what I say that is the lie, it’s what I don’t say. I’d like to say “Yeah had a great weekend with the kids, had a really funny chat with someone on Twitter about drinking port and then blogged about having a hairy va ja ja”. Hmmm, I don’t think I can be honest can I?

I’m going to have a serious think about all this lying. I’m not suddenly going to stop being anonymous as it gives me a certain amount of freedom which, at the moment, I’m enjoying. However, I may be unfollowing a few people on my “real me” account because I can’t be having two different sets of conversations on 2 accounts with the same people. I feel terrible. I’m actually really enjoying chatting on “the 40 year old” account and love reading all the people I follow so I will be spending more time on that account anyway.

As for my husband and friends……………I think I have to keep on lying. I really don’t want to have my cover blown yet.

What do you think? A good idea? Do you wish you were anonymous and do you get followed by lots of friends and family that make tweeting and blogging tricky?


About freefallinginto40

I am 40 years old. I blog about how I'm coping with my "new" age at www.freefallinginto.com . I'm a married mother to two after years of infertility. I have a 6 year old called Pickle and a 3 year old called The Monster. I work 4 days a week. We are also planning a move to the country! I blog about that at www.ourmovetothecountry.wordpress.com
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7 Responses to I’ve been lying….

  1. Emma says:

    I have the attitude that I am who I am, like it or lump it. Personally I would be honest but if you wish to keep it undercover that’s your call ๐Ÿ™‚ x

    • I know lots of people like you and I admire it. I just wish I was the same. I just get embarrassed so easily and having work mates read about something really personal would be too much to bear. Who knows, maybe sometime in the future I’ll adopt your much more sensible and less covert personality trait. ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Yes I totally get why you have kept this a secret! I started blogging and told various people, including my parents, sibling and husband. they now all read it. Unfortunately, this means that I regularly have to stop myself from writing certain things that I otherwise would like to and this also goes for twitter and facebook. THere are pros and cons of remaining ‘private’ I guess, but I just don’t think I could keep it from my husband….he already monitors how much time I spend on it and everytime I try to sneak the odd 15 minutes he seems to catch me out!

    • I can see why keeping it from my husband seems like a big deal, but as its only a little blog at this stage, I’m justifying keeping it a secret. Not sure what the right answer is though.

  3. SF says:

    I happened upon your wonderful post while doing research about anonymous blogging. Funny, honest, gripping… it’s fantastic to feel and utilize the freedom to speak one’s mind in a totally frank manner. And this is precisely the self-analysis tool that is missing from my life these days — it is sorely needed.

    Thanks for your part in inspiring me to proceed with yet another blog — only this time, a more anonymous platform upon which I can spill my guts and sort out the direction to travel at this crossroads (at 46 years of age). Keep on writing boldly!

    Search for Truth

    Another Day, Another Digression

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